As a working parent, I already have a lot of day-to-day tasks to juggle, along with occasional (well, maybe not so occasional) mini-crises and long-term worries about what the world will be like when my son is of age and I'm a crotchety geezerette. One thing I don't want to worry about, however, is my writing.
Reading and writing books is my escape from my ordinary world, my personal time. Writing can be draining, especially if you're sacrificing sleep to fit it in, but it also provides spiritual sustenance you can't always get from daily life. It should be a source of pleasure, even joy and accomplishment and control, not a source of worry or other negative feelings.
This doesn't mean that I'm free of worry when it comes to writing or my writing career. When I'm unable to write and am in the middle of some mindless task, I might wonder if I should do something different with my work-in-progess. I might worry if I'll ever be prolific or popular enough to make a decent living from my work. But I have to ignore those concerns when it's time to write. I need to get inside the mind of my current POV character, and I can't do that if I give him or her my own problems. I don't have a specific technique for doing this, but I think training myself to write at certain times of the day helps put me in the right mindset.
No matter where you are on your writing journey, you will always find something to worry about--if you focus on that. Focus instead on your story and the joy of sharing it with the world. You can always worry about revisions or marketing when you reach the right stage of your work.
Now if you'll excuse me, it's past time for me to write.
If I'm having an otherwise crummy day sometimes it's nice to get writing because then you only have to worry about someone else's problems.
ReplyDeleteCan't give your character your own problems - no, you can't.
ReplyDeleteWhen I'm writing, I have a set time, which means I make it happen no matter what.
Pat--no matter how tough you have it, your character has it worse, right?
ReplyDeleteAlex, yes, it's important to make writing happen.
Thanks for the wise advice 😄
ReplyDeleteI'm going to go write now.
I live a high-stress life, unfortunately, and writing is a great escape. Many days, however, the tank is too empty to write. Reading is my go-to when I'm that exhausted and stressed.
ReplyDeleteReading is a great escape for me but I never thought of writing that way.
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I find chocolate of any kind works wonders on those not-so-great-days. Otherwise writing is a close 2nd. Reading is a great reliever. Losing oneself in a story, no greater pleasure. Except maybe for chocolate ice-cream. Happy IWSG, Sandra. I'm #63.
ReplyDeleteI find chocolate of any kind works wonders on those not-so-great-days. Otherwise writing is a close 2nd. Reading is a great reliever. Losing oneself in a story, no greater pleasure. Except maybe for chocolate ice-cream. Happy IWSG, Sandra. I'm #63.
ReplyDeleteI hear you, I'm so much happier when writing. Making a living as a writer is tough, so focus on what you love. The rest will come in time.
ReplyDeleteEliza, writing is always good!
ReplyDeleteJay, reading is a good way to refill the tank.
Fairyhedgehog, anything you love can be an escape.
Joylene, chocolate is great, but reading doesn't have calories.
M Pax, yes, making a living as a writer is tough, so you have to love writing to pursue it.
I have frequently been accused of not worrying enough and not worrying about enough things, but I look at it like this:
ReplyDeleteIf it's something I can affect, why worry about it? Just change it.
If it's something I have no control over, worrying won't help, so why bother worrying about it?
I think the reason writing is such a stress relief for me too is that it allows me to enter someone else's world for awhile. I may have problems, but they're never as bad as my characters.
ReplyDeleteI'm encouraged by how you make your writing a priority despite the demands of regular life.
Sounds like a good philosophy to me, Andrew!
ReplyDeleteJenni, if I didn't make writing a priority, it would never get done.
Great advice... "Focus instead on your story and the joy of sharing it with the world." I'm posting this at my computer!
ReplyDeleteI'm trying hard to focus on my writing and keep to a schedule. There's always stuff to worry about if you allow it. And it's true... Sharing a story you believe in is a joy!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I could inspire you, Donna!
ReplyDeleteSharon, schedules do help you write consistently.
It can be hard to let go of worries about whether it's good enough, or who would want to read it, while we're writing, but for the sake of our story we need to let go of it. Outside worries could mean lacklustre writing, so more to worry about (editing), and it'll become a vicious cycle! You make a great point about the fact it should be an enjoyable release. Let's focus on that.
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